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FAQ s - Divorce Mediation Near Me, Suffolk County, NY
FAQ s – Divorce Mediation Near Me, Suffolk County, NY

Here are FAQs for Long Island Divorce Mediation in Suffolk County.

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1. What Happens In Mediation?

Divorce Mediation in Suffolk County – In Divorce Mediation, the two divorcing Spouses, led by a mediator, sit down together and come to agreement on all important divorcing issues. During the divorce mediation sessions, issues that get mediated include: child custody choices, child support negotiations, spousal support (maintenance), division of financial assets and liabilities, division of property including the house decisions, pensions, insurance, etc.

During Mediation, our five-star Mediators gather all information from the Spouses about the issues above. Presenting the complete big picture back to the Spouses, our Mediators also acquaint the couple with the NY State legal guidelines, such as child support requirements. Our Divorce Mediators then make suggestions for what agreements have proven useful in the past.

The Spouses are encouraged to make their choices and come to agreement in issues after issue. When all agreements are reached, our Long Island Divorce Mediator Attorney, Fred Klarer, develops the Stipulation of Settlement and the Divorce Legal Papers. Both get filed with the courts and the Judge eventually signs the documents. At that point, the couple is legally divorced.

2. Who Are Mediators and How Are They Trained?

 Fred Klarer, Long Island Divorce Mediator Attorney. Suffolk County
Fred Klarer, Long Island Divorce Mediator Attorney. Suffolk County

Long Island Center for Divorce Mediation in Suffolk County – Divorce Mediators are a relatively new profession, about twenty-five years old. Divorce Mediators come from a host of other professions. They can be lawyers, psychologists, social workers or other professionals.

Most reputable Divorce Mediators have gone through training at Divorce Mediator training centers. While training is available, there is no license for a Mediator.

 Dr. Diane Kramer, Long Island Divorce Mediator Psychologist Suffolk County
Dr. Diane Kramer, Long Island Divorce Mediator Psychologist Suffolk County

The Divorce Mediator conducts the divorce mediation sessions. Once completed, a lawyer usually turns the agreements into the Stipulation of Settlement and Divorce Papers. Obviously, those Divorce Mediators who are also lawyers can do the required paperwork for you. Those mediators who are not lawyers will provide you with a memorandum of agreement. You can bring that memorandum to a lawyer to complete the paperwork that needs to go to the Judge. Only then will a legal divorce ensue.

It is possible to take the memorandum to a paralegal for completion of paperwork or to even try to do it yourself. We do not recommend this method as often the paperwork is overturned and has to be redone.

3. What is a Separation Agreement? Is That Better for Me Than Divorcing?

Sometimes people want a Separation Agreement rather than a Legal Divorce. A Separation Agreement starts with our Mediators mediating all the issues to negotiate, same as in Divorce. Then, the Separation Agreement, a contract between the Spouses containing all the mediated issues, is drawn up. The Separation Agreement, similar to the Stipulation of Settlement, is then filed with the county clerk in NY.

Why do couples select a Separation, rather than a Divorce? Some are hoping to reconcile. Some want to stay on the other Spouse’s Health Insurance. Since in a Separation, the couple is still married, most insurance plans allow the non-insured Spouse to stay on the plan, even though separated.

Once the Separation Agreement is signed, neither Spouse is responsible for any new debt racked up by either Spouse.

4. What if I Can’t Get My Spouse to Come to Divorce Mediation?

Divorce Mediation in Suffolk County Near Me – In New York, we have no-fault divorce. That means that you no longer need to prove grounds in order to get a divorce. Either Spouse can get a divorce if they wish.

Therefore, the Spouse who wants a divorce can say to the other: “I am getting a divorce. You can come to Divorce Mediation sessions and divorce that way. (This is an uncontested divorce.) Or we can go to separate lawyers and pay a large retainer each with more expense to come.” Then the lawyers and the Judge will be in charge of our divorce. (This is a contested divorce.) Most Spouses then agree to come to Mediation which costs under $5000 total as compared to going to separate lawyers. Each side must come up with an average of $7500 as a starter retainer when going to separate lawyers.

5. What Are the Guidelines for Child Custody in NY?

Couples can choose either sole legal custody or joint legal custody. In joint legal custody, parents share responsibility for important decisions about their children, including health and school.

In sole legal custody, one parent is responsible for decisions re the children.

In New York, most couples these days are choosing joint legal custody.

Then there is residential custody. Residential custody refers to where the children primarily reside. The parent who has residential custody receives child support from the non-residential parent.

6. What Are The Guidelines For Child Support In NY?

Child support amounts have been mandated by the Courts in New York State. They are : The residential Spouse gets 17% of the non-residential Spouse’s gross yearly income minus social security for one child. For two children, the number is 25%. For three children, 29%. For four or more children, the amount is 35%.

In Divorce Mediation, Spouses can modify the amounts mandated by the Courts according to circumstances.

7. What About Spousal Support?

The New York State Courts have developed a complex formula for determining Spousal Support. They include the salaries of each Spouse, length of marriage and other factors. A rule of thumb – if the Spousal incomes are close to equal when child support is added in, usually there is no Spousal Support. Please call us for details 631-757-1553.

8. How Are Financial Assets and Debts

Divided Up in Divorce Mediation on Long Island?

In Mediation, the Mediator gathers all financial information from the Couple. Then the Mediator guides the Spouses through division of all assets and liabilities. In New York, all property acquired after the marriage is divided through equitable distribution. Most often the Couple decides on a 50/50 split, but that can be varied in individual cases.

9. What About My Pension?

In most circumstances, any part of a pension, IRA or 401k, earned during the marriage is distributable between the Spouses. Often that results in a 50/50 split. Again, this can be varied during divorce mediation.

10. What About The House?

Divorce Mediation in Suffolk County – In New York State, neither Spouse automatically gets the House. Whether the house is to be sold or not depends on the overall picture of the finances of the Couple. It also depends on who is the owner. Some Houses are bought before the marriage and that Spouse then retains ownership after a divorce.

This is a complex issue that needs to be resolved before the mediation sessions are completed.

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