Here are the Need-To-Know Questions Most of Our Clients Ask – and We Answer:
On the average, Divorce Mediation on Long Island costs under $5000 total.
Divorce Litigation can cost up to $20,000 to $60,000 per spouse.
1. “Should I Choose Divorce Litigation or Divorce Mediation?“
In Divorce Litigation, after spending much time, much money and enduring extreme stress, you and your spouse will still have to reach agreement to finish the divorce.
In Divorce Mediation you will most likely reach a better agreement – with FAR LESS TIME, FAR LESS MONEY and FAR LESS STRESS.
Why will you reach a better agreement in Mediation? Because you remain in control of the process. In Divorce Litigation, you give up control to the Lawyers and the Courts. Often, at the end, the Judge will dictate the final Agreement between you. In Divorce Mediation, we, your Mediators, can help you customize solutions to fit your unique circumstances.
Since New York State has no-fault divorce, if one of you wants a divorce, it will happen. Divorce Mediation is the less expensive, less stressful and faster way.
Most people don’t realize that there are laws and guidelines that determine many of the divorce issues. For instance:
• Child Custody– There are two types of custody, joint (both parents) and sole custody. If you and your Spouse decide on joint custody, either can have residential custody. Residential custody refers to where the children reside most of the week. The parent who has residential custody usually gets the Child Support. Of course, in Divorce Mediation, an uncontested divorce, you and your Spouse can customize this.
• Child Support – Child Support is a set amount, based on the income of the non-residential parent. Of course, if you go through Divorce Mediation, both Spouses can agree to vary the amount, depending on circumstances.
• Spousal Support – The Courts have established a formula, based on a number of factors. Again, both Spouses can agree to vary the amount, based on circumstances.
• Financial Division of Assets – Anything the two of you earned or acquired during marriage is considered joint property and divided equally. There are three exceptions: an inheritance, a personal gift and a personal injury recovery (in most cases). You must prove in each case that the funds were not co-mingled.
• Property, including the House – Property, including the House, is considered joint. Whether you sell the house, arrange for one Spouse to remain, one of you buy the other out – your Divorce Mediator will help you figure out the best strategy for your situation.
• Pensions – Whatever you accumulate in your pension during the marriage – not after or before – is considered joint property and therefore dividable. Again, you and your Spouse can vary this in Divorce Mediation, depending on your financial picture.
In brief, there are three parts to the Mediation Process.
• The Divorce Mediation Sessions – The Divorce Mediators guide you and your Spouse through each issue until you reach agreement. In our Long Island Center for Divorce Mediation ‘near me’ in Suffolk County, we help you reach an agreement within an average of two sessions. 90% of our mediations succeed to completion. Our expertise as mediators guides you through the rough spots.
• The Stipulation of Settlement – Once the Mediation Sessions are complete, our lawyer drafts your agreement. It is a contract between you, laying out the terms of the divorce. It is called the Stipulation of Settlement. You and your Spouse will review and then sign the document.
• The Divorce Packet – Our Lawyer drafts the Divorce Packet, composed of approximately 20 pages of documents that the Courts require in order to grant you a legal divorce.
Once the Stipulation of Settlement and the Divorce Packet are approved by you, and signed, these documents are submitted to the Court for the Judge to sign. When that happens, you are legally divorced.
Some couples want a Legal Separation, instead of a Divorce. One key reason is that usually the Spouse with the health insurance can keep the other Spouse on the policy. That is not possible once a legal Divorce is in place. Our Divorce Mediation process can result in a Legal Separation if you choose that direction.
5. What If I Believe That My Spouse Will Never Agree?
If your Spouse absolutely refuses to cooperate into coming to Divorce Mediation, you will have to seek out a litigation attorney and sue your Spouse for Divorce. However, we find that if you really want a Divorce, most Spouses will eventually agree to Mediation – given the high cost of Litigation and the unpredictability of the results in the Court.
Once you have started Divorce Mediation, it is our expertise as Mediators that will help the two of you reach an agreement, even when there is a lot of conflict and anger.
6. Why Should I Choose the Long Island Center for Divorce Mediation in Suffolk?
Now the question is – which Divorce Mediation Long Island Service to use? Who are the best Divorce Mediators, Suffolk County, for you? Not an easy choice as there are many. Here is why we recommend ourselves – why we believe we stand out from the crowd:
Our Divorce Mediator Long Island Experience – 25 years ago, we recognized that Divorce Mediation was a far better alternative than Divorcing by going to two lawyers and the Courts, and fighting it out.
So we trained as Mediators and opened the Long Island Center for Divorce Mediation, Suffolk County. Now we have 25 years of experience under our belts – We have mediated all kinds of cases, every situation imaginable. And 95% of our cases complete Mediation. Only a handful of cases go to Court – only when one Spouse absolutely refuses to compromise. The end result – usually that Spouse ends up getting less when leaving the agreement in the hands of the Court.
We are so experienced that we as your mediators take on the average, only two meetings to complete the mediation process – as compared to those mediators who insist you buy a package of 5 to 10 sessions in advance.
Our Professional Pasts – My partner and husband, Fred Klarer, Esq. is a Divorce Lawyer with 35 years of experience. Before starting the Long Island Center, he trained as a Divorce Mediator.
Fred, a Harvard Law Graduate and a former Buddhist Monk, is expert in Divorce and Divorce Law – child custody and child support, spousal support, and asset distribution including the house, debt and your pensions.
Given Fred’s experience in the Divorce Courts in Nassau and Suffolk, he can tell you what to expect if you go to two separate lawyers and get involved with the Courts. His experience in that realm will guide you to a far better Divorce Mediation Long Island solution. He is amazing at helping clients reach agreements that both can live with.
Clients tell Fred that he is soothing and calm, non-judgmental and very wise.
I, Dr. Diane Kramer, am a clinical psychologist, licensed in NY State since 1974. My specialty is Marriage and Family Therapy. In the 90s, I trained as a Divorce Mediator.
Clients tell me that I am knowledgeable, trustworthy, calming and am highly effective in conflict resolution. I am expert at helping children and families through divorce and into a happier future.
My skills set me up to help you and your Spouse through the difficult issues, while calming stress, anger or anxiety. I am excellent at not taking sides. I make sure that both Spouses get heard and power is balanced. I think out of the box and help you and your Spouse reach an agreement that works.
That paperwork includes your Stipulation of Settlement (the agreement between you and your Spouse), and the Divorce Packet (30 pages worth). Fred’s agreements in both Divorce Litigation and Divorce Mediation have never been overturned. That means once your decisions are made, your Spouse will not win in petitioning the Court to change the agreement.
Diane offers co-parenting counseling and divorce counseling. She is also excellent at helping children through the family divorce.
Our Personal Pasts – We, Diane and Fred, the Directors of the Divorce Mediation Long Island Center, are married to each other for many years. Both of us divorced our first Spouses a long time ago.
We went through what you are going through now and so we understand. Our understanding is one of the factors that will help you when the going gets difficult.
We know that in most cases, there is one (or maybe two) really difficult issue where you and your Spouse are stuck and frustrated. Both our personal and professional experience helps us help you through the difficulties.
Have We Answered Some of Your Questions? If so, call us for a Free Consultation! You can come in alone or with your Spouse.
Together, we, Fred and Diane, will guide you through the rough spots of your Divorce.
Almost all couples, ready for divorce, who meet with us choose us as their mediators. So please come in for a Free Divorce Mediation Long Island Consultation where you can evaluate us while we answer all your questions and show how we can help you in this difficult time:
Divorce Mediation Long Island, Suffolk County is less expensive, it is faster, and it is less grief for everyone.
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