Long Island Divorce Mediation

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Divorce Mediation in Suffolk County & Nassau County

Mediation Lawyer at Long Island Center for Divorce Mediation, Suffolk, County, NY

Fredrick Klarer, Esq

Divorce Mediator Attorney

Diane Kramer, LI Center for Divorce Mediation

Dr. Diane Kramer

Divorce Mediator

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Why Choose Us

  • 5-star divorce mediators
  • 25+ years experience
  • Less costly than divorce litigation
  • husband/wife team

For your safety, we are also scheduling Divorce Mediation sessions on ZOOM, an incredibly easy virtual platform. It is easy and many of our clients are using this platform with us. It’s very much like meeting in person.

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If you and your spouse have made the decision to get a divorce, you want to be able to start your separate lives and embrace this new chapter as soon as possible. Divorce is never easy.  Seeking an amicable resolution can help make the process less painful on both sides. But a drawn-out, costly litigation only adds to the stress and fear.  The alternative is working together without the presence of a feuding divorce attorneys in a public courtroom. And that’s where our expert divorce mediators come in. You will find divorce mediation Long Island Center style to be less costly and less stressful.

The Best Divorce Mediators in Suffolk County, NY

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At the Long Island Center of Divorce Mediation, we have experience as a top divorce mediation lawyer and a trained divorce mediator and marriage counselor in Suffolk County. This allows us to provide an unparalleled expertise in negotiating and mediating the distribution of property, financial assets, and child custody. Unlike other divorce mediation lawyers, we can provide invaluable emotional and psychological support for any parenting and family issues that you face. We help you find the best solutions for your circumstances, while providing the compassion and guidance you need to navigate the process and move forward.

For many years, most of the area’s divorce lawyers were against having a mediated settlement to end a marriage. As more and more families discovered the benefits of divorce mediation, the field shifted and became saturated with divorce attorneys turned mediators, simply seeking another means of revenue.  In contrast, Fred and Diane, opened one of the first  divorce mediation centers, and have since helped hundreds of spouses resolve their marriages in a less stressful, less costly, and more amicable way.

Over Fred’s 30 years as a divorce mediation lawyer, none of his clients have ever had their agreements overturned. As a team, 98% of our couples complete their divorce mediation. Our countless referrals from friends and family, and our 5-Star Google reviews, continue to confirm our reputation as two of the best divorce mediators in Suffolk County.

Top Divorce Mediation Lawyer Who Offers You More

With so many mediators in the area to choose from, finding the right one may seem tedious and overwhelming. But very few mediators can offer the same experience and support as Long Island Center for Divorce Mediation in Suffolk County. Fred, a licensed divorce mediation attorney, and Diane, a divorce mediator psychologist, bring together skills and knowledge for every aspect of the divorce process. Every mediation is handled with the utmost professionalism and effectiveness.

Emotion is a major component of any divorce. With so many changes happening all at once, it can be a very difficult time for both spouses. As Buddhist Mediators, Fred and Diane are experts in reading emotions of a couple and knowing when to push for a solution on particular issues and when to hold back, in helping maintain emotional calm and appropriate connectedness.

Our process as mediators recognizes the resentment and fear that you are facing, while striving to focus on the new life ahead of you. By helping you set aside the emotional aspects and focus on the daily aspects of your lives, our clients realize that resolving these issues is simpler than you think. Especially when it comes to the custody of a child. We focus on the realities of work and school schedules, commutes, and more to help you realize it’s simply about managing how to get through each day.

Divorce mediators nassau countyUnderstanding Divorce Mediation Long Island

Not every couple needs to litigate their divorce. More often than not, a cooperative process is what both spouses seek, but they believe hiring costly divorce lawyers and going in front of a judge is their only option. For couples who communicate respectfully with one another and want to come to a resolution that works for both sides, contacting a divorce mediator is the way to go.

When a couple chooses divorce mediation, a neutral third party meets with both sides to guide them toward an amicable resolution together. This process is led by a mutually agreed-upon, professional divorce mediator to help the spouses come to realistic agreements concerning equitable distribution of investment assets, property ownership, child support, child custody, and other related issues. Unlike divorce litigation handled by expensive divorce lawyers, divorce mediation can resolve these issues in a matter of weeks, saving you both valuable time and money.

The mediators chosen should have extensive experience and knowledge in divorce and family law. The best option is to find a divorce mediation lawyer who is certified and licensed in the field to help ensure their ability to negotiate and mediate effectively through all the emotional and financial complexities of divorce. Emotional issues of anger and pain often get in the way of reaching decisions. We help you stay objective. Long Island Divorce Mediation will help you reach solutions that work. Our Long Island divorce mediation lawyers are a neutral third party to help you and your spouse find solutions without having to go through separate divorce attorneys.

Long Island Divorce Mediation, Suffolk County and Nassau County
Long Island Divorce Mediation, Suffolk County and Nassau County

4 Steps of Divorce Mediation at the Long Island Center for Divorce Mediation:

Once you and your spouse select a divorce mediator or divorce mediation attorney, you will set up a schedule for your weekly or bi-weekly mediation sessions. Over a span of one to a few sessions. (85% of clients at the Long Island Center for Divorce Mediation finish negotiations within two sessions), your divorce mediation lawyer will work with you both to craft a divorce settlement that provides each member of your family with the best quality of life as you part ways and move forward. The four main steps throughout divorce mediation are:

  1. Mediators lead Spouses to make decisions about all child and financial issues.
  2. Mediator Lawyer draws up Stipulation of Settlement – legal contract between Spouses.
  3. Mediator Lawyer draws up Divorce Packet – legal paperwork needed for divorce in NY.
  4. Stipulation of Settlement and Divorce Packet are submitted to courts – 4-6 months later, you are legally divorced.

Mediation is a less stressful, less costly, and faster method of divorce. Mediating leaves you and your spouse in control of your agreements. Divorce lawyers and judges are not in charge. You are. Even many difficult cases can be settled through mediation if both parties share a willingness to work together.

For 25 years, Long Island Divorce Mediation Center in Suffolk County has successfully led thousands of couples through the ‘what’ and ‘how’ of mediation, helping them effectively communicate and collaborate to find a resolution that works for both parties.

As your divorce mediators, Fred Klarer, Suffolk County Divorce Mediator Lawyer and Dr. Diane Kramer, Suffolk County Divorce Mediator and Psychologist will guide you to resolve all conflicts and make decisions about the key divorce issues. This includes finances, support, the house, pensions and the children. Then, Fred, our highly experienced divorce mediation Long Island lawyer prepares all paperwork needed for your divorce, at mediation rather than lawyer rates. Every step of the mediation process is handled at our location, making your experience even easier and faster for you.

We take pride in the fact that none of our agreements has ever been overturned in the Court, and 98% of our clients complete their Divorces and Legal Separations with us. We have established a reputation in Suffolk County of being highly ‘trustworthy’ and this translates to a successful mediation for every couple that comes to us.

Benefits of Choosing Divorce Mediation Over Divorce Litigation

There are no courts or judges overseeing every detail and making the decisions for you. The outcome is determined by you and your spouse together, giving you control of the experience and how long it takes. Even if mediation doesn’t result in a full agreement, the process will allow you to narrow the issues in dispute for litigation, offering very little risk to couples who attempt this method first.

In many cases, spouses can work with their divorce mediation lawyer to come to a resolution in just one to a few sessions. When it comes to litigation, you and your divorce attorney are at the mercy of the court schedule, which only prolongs the process. You could be waiting months or even a year to get a court date. Mediations also don’t have a time limit, so there’s no pressure from the courts or your divorce lawyer’s billable hours to force a resolution before you’re ready.

During the litigation process, both spouses are responsible for divorce attorney and court fees – including discovery, delays, trials, and all communication between divorce lawyers. The unfortunate truth in these cases is, the more you spend on a good divorce attorney, the better your chances at a favorable outcome. Mediation doesn’t require either side to be represented and the courts aren’t involved, so there’s no costly battle, saving a lot of money for both parties.

When you hire a divorce attorney and your divorce goes to court, all filed declarations of accusations made against each spouse become public record. Your case details are online for anyone to view, for years to come. Working with divorce mediation lawyers is completely confidential; handled between you, your spouse, and the mediator in a private conference room – no combatant divorce attorneys in Long Island, NY looking for evidence to use against you. At no point does your divorce mediation lawyer require any filed declarations, so you can both maintain your reputations and resolve your issues in private.

Mediation gives both parties the opportunity to share their true feelings and opinions without the presence or judgement of divorce attorneys and court witnesses. Mediation ensures that the communication is constructive, creating a safe space for both parties to talk things through. This eliminates the tension and defensiveness of a ‘one side vs. the other’ structure, and in many cases, makes the relationship stronger than it was before.

Since mediation focuses on cooperation and mutual agreement, it’s a much less formal process than a courtroom litigation between two aggressive divorce lawyers. Mediation encourages spouses to put their differences aside and partake in a free exchange of ideas. The process is designed to produce more creative solutions and positive compromise to best handle all the changes in a couple’s life post-divorce.

Our Divorce Mediators in both of our two Divorce Mediation offices in Yaphank and Huntington will be happy to answer all questions.

Here are the Need-To-Know Questions Most of Our Clients Ask at the Long Island Center for Divorce Mediation - and Our Mediators Answer:

Ending your Marriage

In ending your marriage through divorce mediation, you and your spouse decide your own divorce – together. Many want a mediator rather than a divorce lawyer because lawyers are expensive and charge by the hour. This process avoids getting involved with two expensive divorce lawyers, a Judge, and the Courts, and settling on important assets and custody decisions in front of a full courtroom of witnesses. Instead, you and your spouse meet with our Center’s Long Island divorce mediators in private.

Mediator’s Role

With your mediators’ help and guidance, the two of you make decisions about all divorce issues. These issues include child custody and child support, financial agreements, spousal support, the house, debts and pensions. You both can end your marriage as amicably as possible, while spending far less money, time, and effort. You will find our divorce mediator Long Island lawyer, Fred Klarer, and divorce mediation Long Island psychologist, Dr. Diane Kramer, will lead you to a rapid, less costly and less stressful solution than you can imagine.

Issues to mediate include:

Issues to Mediate

Child Custody and Child Support
Distribution of Finances
Property, Including the House
Spousal Support (formerly alimony)
Your Pensions, Taxes and Debt

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If your Spouse absolutely refuses to cooperate into coming to Divorce Mediating, you can seek out a divorce attorney and sue your Spouse for Divorce. However, if you really want to end your marriage, most Spouses will eventually agree to Mediation. Why? Because of the high cost of pursuing Litigation and hiring a divorce attorney, in addition to the unpredictability of the results in the Court.

Once you have started the process of divorcing, it is our expertise as highly-qualified and knowledgeable divorce mediators and lawyer that will help the two of you reach an agreement. Our top divorce mediators can help even when there is a lot of conflict and anger.

Many people don’t realize that there are laws and guidelines that determine many of the divorce issues handled during mediation in New York. For instance:

Child Custody

In Suffolk County, divorce mediation offers two types of legal custody. They are joint (both parents) and sole custody. If you and your Spouse decide on joint custody, either can have residential custody. Residential custody is where the children reside most of the week. In a mediated divorce, you and your Spouse can customize this.

Child Support

Child Support is a set amount, based on the income of the non-residential parent. Of course, if you mediate, both Spouses can agree to vary the amount, depending on circumstances.

Spousal Support

The Courts have established a formula, based on a number of factors. Again, both Spouses can agree to vary the amount.

Financial Division of Assets

Anything the two of you earned or acquired during marriage is considered joint property and dividable. There are three exceptions: an inheritance, a personal gift and a personal injury recovery. These exceptions remain your personal property so long as the funds were not co-mingled or put into a joint fund.


The Property you buy during the marriage is considered joint. You can sell the house, arrange for one Spouse to remain or one of you buy the other out. Your Long Island Divorce Mediator will help you figure out the best strategy for your situation.


Whatever comes into your pension during the marriage is considered joint property and dividable. Again, you and your Spouse can vary this in Mediation.

Divorce Litigation Long Island – Contested Divorce

In Divorce Litigation, you will spend more time and money on court fees and divorce attorneys and endure extreme stress throughout the process. Through the structure of the court system, you lose control of your collaboration and the divorce becomes 2-sided. The schedule is determined by the court and each divorce lawyer will seek only what is best for their client, and not necessarily the both of you. And during your litigation, you and your spouse will be forced to finish the divorce no matter what the outcome.

Divorce Mediation Long Island

In working with a Divorce Mediator, you will most likely reach a better agreement. You will get there with FAR LESS TIME, FAR LESS MONEY and FAR LESS STRESS. Our mediators are the best in Suffolk County at finding an amicable resolution as efficiently as possible, so you can both move on with your lives.

Why Choose Mediation?

Why will you reach a better agreement in a mediation process? Because you remain in control. In Divorce Litigation, the divorce lawyers and the Judge are in control. Often, the Judge will dictate the final Agreement between you and your spouse.

In contrast, our highly experienced Divorce Mediators will help you customize solutions to fit your unique circumstances. Unlike divorce attorneys during litigation, we work together with both spouses, so both opinions are heard and part of the final resolution.

Since New York State has no-fault divorce, if one of you wants a divorce, it will happen. Divorce Mediating is the less expensive, less stressful, and faster alternative to divorce lawyers and litigation. Read Long Island Divorce Mediation Better than Litigation to learn more.

Mediation Definition


Divorce Mediation is an alternative to traditional divorce litigation. In a divorce mediation session, a mediator facilitates the discussion between the two parties by assisting with communication and providing information and suggestions to help resolve differences. At the end of the mediation process, the separating parties have typically developed a tailored divorce agreement that can be submitted to the court… Divorce mediators may be attorneys who have experience in divorce cases, or they may be professional mediators who are not attorneys, but who have training specifically in the area of family court matters. Divorce mediation can be significantly less costly, both financially and emotionally, than litigation. The adherence rate to mediated agreements is much higher than that of adherence to court orders.”

In brief, there are three parts to the Mediation Process.

The Divorce Mediating Sessions

Your Mediator guides you and your Spouse through each issue until you reach agreement. In Divorce Mediation Long Island, we help you reach an agreement within an average of two sessions. 98% of our mediations succeed to completion. Our expertise as mediators guides you through the rough spots. Our first session is always free of cost.

The Stipulation of Settlement

Once the Mediation Sessions are complete, our divorce mediation attorney drafts your agreement. The contract lays out the terms of the divorce, known as the Stipulation of Settlement.  This contract is an approximately 60 page document, that is needed by the Courts.

The Divorce Packet

Our Divorce Mediation Lawyer, Fred Klarer, then completes the divorce packet, another set of documents needed for a legal divorce in NY State.

(Click Before you start the divorce mediation process, you should know how long the process takes to learn more about how the process works and how long it takes.) Once complete, you come in and sign the Stipulation of Settlement and the Divorce Packet. These documents are submitted to the Judge to sign. When that happens, you are legally divorced.

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As you pursue a divorce, the question you face is – which Mediation Service to use? It’s not an easy choice as there are many options. Here is why we recommend our divorce mediators – why we believe we offer the best mediation services in Suffolk County:

Our aim – to provide high quality complete divorce mediator services to Suffolk County and Eastern Nassau County.

In November, 2017, we opened a second  mediation office in Yaphank – right off Exit 68 of the Expressway.

Our Experience as Mediators on Long Island

25 years ago, we recognized that Mediation was a far better alternative than divorcing by going to two divorce lawyers and the Courts and fighting it out.

So, we trained as neutral divorce mediators and opened our first office. Now, we have 25 years of experience under our belts. We have mediated every situation imaginable as the top divorce mediation attorney and psychologist in the area.

And 98% of our cases complete the Mediation process. Only a handful go to Court – only when one Spouse absolutely refuses to compromise. The end result – usually that Spouse ends up getting less from the Judge.

Our divorce mediators at our Long Island Center in two locations in Suffolk County have the experience and skills that it takes on average two meetings to complete the mediation process – as compared to those mediators who sell you a package of 5 to 10 sessions.

Please contact our divorce mediators for a quote. Costs vary based on the complexity of your situation – from approximately $2000 to under $5000. Our Mediation Centers are set up to offer reasonably priced services.

Divorce Mediation Long Island Suffolk County and Nassau County

Our Personal Philosophy about Divorce

As partners at our Divorce Mediation Long Island offices, Diane and Fred have been a husband and wife team for many years. Both of us divorced our first spouses a long time ago before becoming mediators.

We went through what you are going through now, and so we understand. As a result, we are better prepared to help you when the process gets difficult. As mediators, we believe that divorce can be less stressful, less costly, and less time-consuming than hiring divorce lawyers and settling in court. Our advantage – we have an experienced divorce lawyer who knows all the ins and outs of divorce law, as well as what kinds of decisions the Judge will make based on your specific case got to divorce court. This experienced divorce lawyer acts as your mediator at mediator prices, not lawyer prices. Our successful divorce mediation Long Island practice proves that this is possible.

To learn more about our mediators, contact us today.

Long Island Center for Divorce Mediation – Two Offices: Huntington (for Eastern Nassau County and Western Suffolk County) and Yaphank (for Mid-Suffolk County and Eastern Suffolk County)

We offer two locations for your convenience; both in Suffolk County, the largest county in New York with approximately 1.6 million people and stretching from the Nassau County border to the eastern ends of Long Island, Montauk and Orient Point. The Long Island Center for Divorce Mediation has two offices in western Suffolk County and in mid-Suffolk County. These offices serve those seeking divorce without litigation – an uncontested Suffolk County divorce through divorce mediation. Our Huntington Office serves Eastern Nassau County and Western Suffolk County. Our Yaphank Office serves Mid-Suffolk County and Eastern Suffolk County.

Our Office Locations for Suffolk County and Nassau County Mediation

Yaphank Office at Exit 68 of the Expressway

This Divorce Mediation office serves a large area within thirty minutes. Villages and towns for divorce mediation:

  • Selden
  • Riverhead
  • Westhampton
  • Hampton Bays
  • Wading River
  • Shoreham
  • Shirley
  • Rocky Point
  • Moriches
  • Miller Place
  • Mount Sinai
  • Middle Island
  • Port Jefferson Station
  • Port Jefferson
  • Terryville
  • Ridge
  • Ronkonkoma
  • Farmingville
  • Holbrook
  • Holtsville
  • Hauppauge
  • Commack
  • Coram
  • Bohemia
  • Smithtown
  • Stonybrook
  • Setauket
  • East Setauket
  • Patchogue
  • East Patchogue, 
  • West Islip
  • Central Islip
  • Islip
  • Bayshore
  • Islandia
  • Oakdale
  • Bayport
  • Bellport
  • Great River

Our Yaphank Office opened in October 2017 and is growing briskly due to it’s highly convenient location no more than 30 minutes from a host of communities that feed into the Expressway. Our Yaphank Office offers a full range of divorce mediation services, including the mediation of all divorce issues, Stipulation of Settlement, divorce packet, parenting plan and child custody arrangements, spousal and child support and financial division of assets and liabilities.

— If you’re interested in learning more about our Yaphank Office, visit our page for more information

Long Island Center for Divorce Mediation
75 Prospect St.
Suite 103
Huntington, NY 11743

Hours of Operation:
M-F – 9:00 AM to 9:00 PM
Sat. – 9:00 AM to 6:00 PM

Our Huntington Office

This Suffolk County Divorce Mediation office serves Western Suffolk County and Eastern Nassau County Areas.

We offer divorce mediation to:

  • Huntington
  • Smithtown
  • Cold Spring Harbor
  • Commack
  • Northport
  • East Northport
  • Centerport
  • Elwoood
  • Greenlawn
  • Plainview
  • Plandome
  • Woodbury
  • Bayshore
  • Babylon
  • Islip
  • Amityville
  • Farmingdale
  • Melville
  • East Norwich
  • Deer Park
  • Kings Park
  • Massapequa
  • Seaford
  • Oyster Bay

— Read about our services at our Huntington Office

Have We Answered Some of Your Questions? We hope so.

Long Island Center for Divorce Mediation
75 Prospect St.
Suite 103
Huntington, NY 11743

Hours of Operation:
M-F – 9:00 AM to 9:00 PM
Sat. – 9:00 AM to 6:00 PM

Long Island Center For Divorce Mediation has won 2021 Best of Huntington Awards for Divorce Service!

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