What if divorce mediation isn't for me?

Divorce mediation is a voluntary process. It requires both an agreement by both of you that you are getting divorced and realistic expectations about the financial, custody, and visitation arrangements. That is not always possible. Where one of you is adament that it will be your way or no way, where the desire for revenge or vengence clouds the ability to see what is in everyone's best interest, or where one of you simply avoids dealing with the problem in the hope that it will go away, then the other of you has a tough decision to make. You may have to proceed unilaterally and sue your spouse for divorce, or you may need to seek counseling to help you decide on the best course of action. The Center for DIvorce Mediation provides both those services through Fred Klarer's law practice and Dr. Diane Kramer's counseling practice.

If you choose to sue your spouse for divorce, you need an attorney who is going to seek to protect your interests in a cost-effective but aggressive manner, while always seeking a resolution through agreement. You need an attorney who knows when to fight and when not to, who listens to you and is always seeking a realistic resolution while not selling out your interests. That is Fred Klarer's divorce law practice -- contested divorce that he moves through the courts effectively, seeking the outcome that you want, rather than a mechanical course of litigation at great expense. If you need that sort of representation, give Fred a call at 631-757-1553 to discuss your options.

If you are confused as to how to proceed, then the best option for you is Diane's counseling practice. You need a psychologist who knows how to support you in making the best choices for yourself while helping you to take the appropriate actions that will lead to your getting what you want in your life long term. That is Diane's counseling practice. Give her a call at 631-757-1553.

We believe that virtually every divorce would be better off as a mediated divorce. However, it takes both of you to do that. If that is not possible we can help you with regular representation in a contested divorce.