Contested Divorce Long Island: How It Works

by Fred on November 3, 2009

Contested divorce on Long Island often takes on a life of its own. You and your spouse are locked into stubborn positions and neither one of you will give in. Perhaps your Long island divorce attorneys are deeply committed to prevailing at trial and will not compromise. Maybe the Long Island divorce court Judge and his or her assistant, the Law Secretary, have had enough and just want to schedule a trial and get it over with.

You are about to spend a great deal of money to have a complete stranger decide the rest of your life. Stop. It is time to try divorce mediation, before you jump off the cliff.

We offer an opportunity for you and your spouse to sit down with an impartial and disinterested Long Island Divorce Mediator to work out a deal that is not based on the emotional positions that everyone has fallen into, but on the facts as they have been developed. No matter what your Long Island divorce lawyer tells you, most cases settle with a compromise, and no one gets what they want in a Long Island divorce trial. You may have the most aggressive Long Island divorce lawyer, but you spouse has the other one, and eventually you will have to settle, or a Long Island divorce Judge will settle for you.

Virtually every divorce mediation that we handle is successful in Divorce Mediation Long Island and allows you to have an uncontested divorce through the Long Island divorce courts –  you can avoid the disaster of a Long Island contested divorce trial. If you find that divorce mediation is not for you and you would prefer a contested divorce in the Long Island divorce courts, with your Long Island divorce attorney, at least you and your spouse are clear that you tried to avoid the Long Island divorce courts, and you can go ahead and spend every cent you have to try to convice a Long Island divorce court Judge to see it your way.

Divorce mediation on Long Island is an excellent first step to resolving the disaster of an ongoing contested divorce.

Contested Divorce Long Island vs. Uncontested Divorce Long Island

A contested divorce is one in which you and your spouse, for whatever reasons, feel that you should each be represented by separate Long Island divorce attorneys. In an uncontested divorce, you and your spouse work out the terms of your divorce with the help of a Long Island divorce mediator and then submit your fully completed divorce agreement to the Long Island divorce Court for a Judge to sign the Judgment of Divorce.

In a contested divorce it is quite possible to settle through negotiations through the divorce attorneys. Theoretically the only involvement of the divorce Courts would be when the final settlement is approved and the divorce granted by a Judge. However, once the process gets divorce attorneys and other people involved you often lose control and you are off to the divorce lottery  — who knows how the results will actually compare with what you both want — for yourselves and for your children? The reality is that most contested divorces do have the involvement of the Court for some time.

To find out more about a divorce through divorce mediation, click here

Otherwise, if you would like to learn more about what is involved in a contested divorce, check out the links below:

Beginning the Process of Contested Divorce Long Island.

Getting the Court Involved In a Contested Divorce Long Island.

Temporary Support and Other Temporary Relief in a Contested Divorce Long Island.

The First Court Appearance in a Contested Divorce Long Island.

What Happens Next In a Contested Divorce Long Island: Discovery.

Protecting Your Children in a Contested Divorce Long Island.

Further Court Appearances in a Contested Divorce Long Island.

Setting a Trial Date in a Contested Divorce Long Island.

Trial of Your Case in a Contested Divorce Long Island.

What Happens After the Trial of Your Contested Divorce Long Island?

How to Avoid All That in a Contested Divorce Long Island.