Litigated Divorce: Protecting Your Children.

Another way to ensure that your divorce is expensive and to damage your children is to have constant battles during the litigation over custody and visitation issues. Don’t put your children in the middle of your divorce. Most parents are not monsters. Your children have a right to two parents. Do not allow your own anger at your spouse, no matter how justified, to interfere with that. Your children are not pawns to be played in the game of divorce. We seek to establish a reasonable parenting arrangement when the divorce is begun, one that keeps the children out of the argument as much as is possible.

You need to understand that the Court will do everything in its power to maintain a relationship between the children and both parents. Your anger at your spouse will not necessarily translate into the Court’s punishing your spouse. A totally rotten spouse may be an excellent parent. It is the best interests of the children that will serve as the basis for any decisions by the Court concerning the children, not your unhappiness at the breakdown of the relationship with your spouse.