Contested Divorce Long Island: How to Avoid All That

The reality is that anything and everything that will be decided either in negotiations between your two attorneys or by a judge after a trial can be decided much more quickly, with much less expense, and with much less grief, in a face-to-face mediation involving the two of you and an impartial mediator. My experience is that, often, parties just need for their spouse to hear the pent-up resentments and an unhappiness from years of an unsatisfactory marriage. Sometimes just having a neutral third party, the mediator, hear it all, without comment or opinion, is enough to get beyond those issues to the practical problem-solving that is required to end a marriage without a catastrophe.

The issues in divorce are, for the most part, not all that difficult. It is not rocket science. The difficulties are the emotional devastation that divorce causes, the practical realities of not enough money to go around with two household instead of one, and the pain of being separated from daily contact with one’s children. Much more satisfactory solutions come out of face-to-face problem solving than from dueling attorneys over months or years of litigation.

That is a contested Long Island contested divorce case in a nutshell: do you really want to do through that? What benefit is there to the time, the money, and the grief expended? Will you really do better? We don’t think so. Divorce Mediation Long Island is a far better choice — the benefits to you are:

– keep your limited assets for yourselves and your children rather than spending a great deal of money on divorce lawyers;

– get the whole thing done is a couple of months rather than a couple of years;

– avoid the daily suffering and pain of a drawn out contested divorce — spare your children the grief and confusion.

If  you want to review the details of the contested divorce process go back to Long Island Contested Divorce: How It Works to see the full list of topics about contested divorce.