It has been a while since I posted a new entry. Life has just been a bit too busy.

It has now been a few weeks since the no-fault divorce provisions went into effect, and I have some observations on them.

First, there has been an uptick in the number of couples coming in where one of parties clearly wants out and the other does not. There is now no impediment to getting divorced on Long Island if that is what you want; your spouse’s views on this are now irrelevant. Divorce mediation appears to be the path of choice for the spouse who wants out.

Secondly, the hopelessness and helplessness in the resistant spouse have increased. A couple came in to see me today and the wife just sat and cried for 45 minutes. She kept saying that she loves her husband and doesn’t want a divorce. On the other hand, they have been in and out of therapy for six years, out of an eleven year divorce, so this cannot be a surprise to her.

Who can say what really goes on inside a marriage?

Clearly, since a spouse who does not want the divorce has lost any realistic chance to stop or slow it down, people are going to have to come to terms with divorce more quickly and with less time to adjust. I urged the wife today to see an individual therapist to help with coming to terms with her impending change in circumstances.

While no-fault divorce may be a kinder way to divorce — avoiding the drawn out, and expensive, court process — it also is going to force a reluctant spouse to come to terms with the divorce quickly –perhaps more quickly than is really good for anyone.

It is now the law, so we will just have to deal with the consequences.

Major Changes in Divorce Law Effect Divorce Mediation. 

 

As I mentioned in my previous post, New York state has enacted major changes in the law of divorce and effect divorce mediation on Long Island. In this post I will lay out briefly what each one is; in later posts I will explain each one in depth.

Major Change in New York Divorce #1: No Fault Divorce Comes to New York

The first is, perhaps, the most signficant. New York had long been the holdout on n0-fault divorce. The Courts had come up with a work-around, called “constructive abandonment”, but it was really a fiction; in many cases it required the parties to lie about their behavior to the Court, with the Court winking and nodding to allow the divorce. All it took was a reluctant spouse, who didn’t want a divorce, and you were headed for a trial as to whether the party seeking a divorce had grounds or not.

I have tried grounds cases — they are not so easy to win. So, a spouse who did not want a divorce could possibly defeat the divorce, or, more commonly, use that as leverage to obtain a more favorable financial settlement from a spouse who was completely fed up and wanted out. That is no more — all it takes is an affidavit from one spouse that the marriage has experienced “irrevocable breakdown” for the previous six months and you have grounds for divorce. Suprisingly, there may still be some issues there — I will discuss them in the next post.

Major Change in New York Divorce #2: Temporary Maintenance During Litigation Now A Formula 

A major issue in any ongoing divorce has to do with support during the period of the litigation, which can run over several years. It has been a hotly contested issue, and the outcome can often determine how the rest of the litigation progresses. If the spouse seeking maintenance does not get what she (most typically) wants, she may be forced to settle prematurely. On the other hand, a substantial award against the husband (again, typically) may encourage the wife to delay resolution as long as possible and may put the husband in an almost impossible situation financially. [These are not meant to be sexist characterizations -- they reflect the realities of litigation.] The basic principal that the Courts tried to apply ws the real economic needs of the parties and the pre-divorce standard of living of the parties.

The Domestic Relations Law now has a formula that the Court is to apply; it completely ignores the economic needs of the parties and the pre-divorce standard of living and just seeks to distribute the income of both parties pursuant to a formula. Presumably, this will make the job of judges easier.

The formula is extremely complicated; I cannot go into it here. I will explain it in detail in a subsequent post. Essentially, it compares the income of each party, then seeks to distribute income from the party with greater income to the one with with income. Obviously, there may well be extremely contentious disputes over exactly how much income one party or the other actually has. The issue of unreported, or “off the books” income will become a major issue here.

Major Change in New York Divorce #3: Permanent Maintenance

The statute now provides for a much more extensive list of factors for the Court to consider in making a post-diviorce maintenance award. However, there is no formula; instead, the legislature has called for a study of this issue. In my experience, the temporary award more often then not becomes the final award, so it is hard to know what the legislature was up to here.

Major Change in New York Divorce #4: Interim Counsel Fees

The new statute provides a “rebuttable presumption” that the Court will award legal fees to fund the litigation, on behalf of the non-monied spouse, to be paid by the monied spouse. That means that the spouse with the greater income (typically the husband) is going to get hammered if he is unable to convince the Court that his spouse should pay her own fees. This, again, is a hammer against the monied spouse. We shall have to see how this works out.